“Parenting Isn’t
for Cowards”
They are the two biggest tasks in life, and nobody prepares you
for them. Not your parents, not your teachers, not your coaches.
Nobody.
One is marriage; the other is parenting.
Of the two, parenting has always been harder
for me. When I become a parent, I started with little knowledge
and less experience. If there’s any area of my life where I have felt less prepared,
I can’t think of it.
At first things seemed pretty easy for Denise
and me when our firstborn entered the world: she was the most adorable
baby ever born … she
was so little that she fit in my arms perfectly … she was
cute when she cooed, funny whey she burped, and serene when she slept. “This
isn’t so bad,” I told myself. “I wonder why other
parents complain so much about raising kids?”
Then one day she threw a fit in the grocery
store check-out line when she was two. (Curse those candy displays!)
And at 5 she got a splinter in her eye and I was afraid she was
going to be blind. And at 10 she liked a boy in her fifth grade
class … and he
had the nerve to like her back! And at 12 she didn’t like the
clothes we bought her. And at 13 she didn’t want me to talk
when I drove the carpool to school – something about me embarrassing
her in front of her friends. And at 15 she liked another boy and
didn’t want to hang around our family much – but she
sure didn’t mind hanging around his family. Then she went to
college and began telling me the things she was learning at school – things
that made me want her tuition refunded. Nobody prepared me for any
of this.
Don’t get me wrong – Kari is simply
the most wonderful daughter a father could have. No debate could
convince me otherwise. But raising her from infancy to adulthood
was not a piece of cake. (Actually it was kind of like a piece
of cake, if you include the crumbled pieces!)
Early on Denise and I felt helpless as to how
to raise a child – no
one had ever told us what to do and when to do it. Sometimes we read
books; sometimes we asked veteran parents (“veteran” implies
surviving war!); often we just guessed. Along the way we ran across
a book by James Dobson entitled Parenting Isn’t for Cowards. I
never read the book, but the title impressed upon me a parenting
principle that has guided me over the last two decades: parenting
takes patience, wisdom, and above all courage. Raising kids is not
for the fainthearted. Parenting isn’t for cowards.
That’s why PTCC is partnering with Watermark Community Church
in presenting a Parenting Workshop on April 1. It’s a one-day
conference that offers guidance and wisdom in the areas where we
feel most inadequate as parents. Topics include:
- Preparing for Kids
- Early Childhood Discipline
- Discipline for Elementary School Children
- Praying for Your Children
- Parents, Kids, and Sports
- Responding to Kids with Hurts, Habits, & Hang-ups
- Parenting Teens: Setting Boundaries and Maintaining the
Relationship
- Releasing your Teens: When, What, and How
- Sibling Conflict Resolution
- Demystifying the Myths of Single Parenting
If this workshop sounds right for you, sign up now for The Watermark
Parenting Workshop. It will be from 9 AM to 4 PM on Saturday April
1 at The Watermark Building (7540 LBJ Freeway). PTCC attendees will
meet for a special breakout lunch from 12noon to 2 PM in a reserved
room at Watermark. The cost of the workshop and lunch is $35.00/parent.
Onsite childcare is available for a small fee: $10 for one child,
$15 for 2 children, $20 for three or more children.
You can register in the lobby after Sunday services; or you may
send an email to info@prestontrail.org. Be
sure to complete a Conference Form, also available in the lobby,
indicating which breakout sessions you would like to attend.
Learning to be the best parent you can be involves some intentional
training along the way. We hope this workshop gives you just what
you need.
Still learning,
Paul Basden, senior pastor
Read
previous Trail Notes here
I M P O R T A N T N O
T E !
Calling all Preston Trail
Family Members!
You are invited to a Special
PTCC Communication Event on
Upcoming Changes in Children's Programming
Sunday, March 19th
4:00 PM
Taylor Home
7943 Raintree Way
Frisco, TX 75034
Join our senior pastors and the Directors
of Children's Programming and Curbside for an upcoming look at
the future of our children's ministry. In conjunction with
our building move-in, PTCC will unveil exciting changes in KidStreet
and Curbside. Come and learn more about these upcoming
fall changes and how they will impact you. A question and
answer session will follow.
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